Are there guys who actually want a high maintenance woman and don't quite know how to deal with the ones who aren't demanding and expecting to be
pampered and lavished?
Is there such as a thing as too low maintenance?
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 incrediblegobstopper |
Is there such as a thing as too low maintenance? |
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Posts: 5621 (11/02/09 4:52 PM) Right Tart
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Downpuppy |
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Nose Tweaker
Posts: 19 (11/02/09 7:27 PM) |
Well, duuh.
Plenty of assholes rate value by price tag. |
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jane1958 |
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Posts: 403 (11/03/09 9:41 AM)
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Yup, and if you are low maintenance they do not appreciate you, or at least that has been my experience in life so far. I find most men do not know how to
handle a smart low drama woman either.
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Subversive
Posts: 78 (11/03/09 7:14 PM) |
Actually, too low maintenance is just as bad as too high maintenance. I'm too low maintenance, and have really suffered in my relationships with people who
want to help, and who feel fulfilled and valued when they can show their love/respect, etc by being attentive or generous with their time/money/friendship. I
have found the hard way that when I don't let people do for me, they feel undervalued and feel like they can't ever do anything right, because I reject
their overtures--it's like what they have to offer is not good enough.
I struggle to change my independent ways, and when I make a real effort, I can tell immediately how happier the person is that whatever they have to give is needed and valued. Men especially feel they have to 'do' for special women in their lives. They take a very active approach, and when you reject that, or prove that you can do for yourself or do without, they don't feel like they're necessary in your life. Balance is the key, just as in anything. |
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Posts: 5625 (11/04/09 10:32 AM) Right Tart
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It's not a monetary thing. It's... have you considered doing this with your hair, or wearing this, or doing this with that, etc. Where I'm starting
to feel like I must really be a troll. I've given up on my hair and just let him style it so it looks how he likes.
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incrediblegobstopper |
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Posts: 5626 (11/04/09 10:48 AM) Right Tart
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And I talked to him about it last night.
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jane1958 |
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Posts: 405 (11/04/09 12:51 PM)
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and.........
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incrediblegobstopper |
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Posts: 5629 (11/04/09 1:10 PM) Right Tart
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He apologized and said I'm beautiful the way I am. That I don't have to listen to anything he says if I don't want, and he's sorry if he hurt
my feelings.
The problem is, he's right about everything he's suggested. |
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Subversive
Posts: 247 (11/09/09 11:01 AM) |
So the blond wig, stiletto heels and Bavarian Honey Bear were a success?
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incrediblegobstopper |
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Posts: 5638 (11/09/09 11:36 AM) Right Tart
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Hell yes!
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Posts: 70 (11/13/09 11:51 PM) demerits: 99999999999998
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I find most men do not know how to handle a smart low drama woman either. Those men are clueless dopes with a fucked up values system. |
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Posts: 5657 (11/15/09 8:03 PM) Right Tart
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After some calls he's been getting from his ex, he's appreciating the lower drama.
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